The 5 Stages of Grieving the End of a Relationship

1. Denial
In this phase our heart rather than our head rules our belief system as we try to adjust to the idea of life without the person we’re losing. Even though we know the relationship is over, we really don’t believe it.  Against the better judgment of everyone around us, we can’t help but entertain fantasies of things somehow working out. We see hidden glimmers of hope buried in clear indications that it’s over.  Yes, this is the phase where we are most susceptible to late night texting.
2. Anger
Anger can manifest in many different ways – anger at your ex (“How could he do this to me? Why can’t she stop being selfish?”), anger at God or the universe (“Why can’t anything ever work out for me? Why am I cursed?”), anger at people or situations associated with the break-up (anger at the other woman; anger that your partner lost her job, because that is when she “changed”), and anger at other people who don’t agree or stand with your anger (“Can you believe George and Jane still want to be friends with him after what he did to me?”). This is the phase where we think it’s a great idea to tell anyone and everyone what a psycho-crazy vixen our ex was. This is also when we think it’s crucial to send our ex hateful emails because we don’t want him thinking he got away with anything.
3. Bargaining
Bargaining often goes hand in hand with denial. Bargaining can be looking for any possible way to make the relationship work through negotiation, threats, and/or magic – for example, telling your ex that you will change, or move or go to therapy, or telling him he is hurting the children, his family, your family, and the dog by leaving. And, of course, this phase is not only limited to bargaining with your ex.  Many people bargain with The Powers That Be, promising to be a better person if only the ex will come back.  During this stage, you may take a new interest in astrology, tarot cards or any type of voodoo that will forecast a reunion.  This is also when we attempt to enlist all friends and family to “talk some sense” into him.
4. Depression
Depression, like anger, also surfaces in many different forms, for example feeling tired all the time, not wanting to do anything but lay in bed, feeling disconnected from people even when you’re with them, being on the verge of tears most of the time, trouble sleeping or sleeping too much, loss of appetite or overeating, increase in drug or alcohol use and (the big one) hopelessness.  Hopelessness is the most pervasive and debilitating, It is the thing that leads us to believe that nothing will ever be or feel different than it is right now. Hopelessness makes it feel like you will never move on and that nothing will ever work out for you in the future.
5. Acceptance
Finally, this is the phase in which we are able to make peace with the loss. It doesn’t always come on suddenly; it often happens gradually, little bit by little bit,  interspersed with some of the other phases. Acceptance doesn’t always involve harmony and flowers – there is almost certain to be lingering sadness.  Acceptance entails making peace with the loss, letting go of the relationship and slowly moving forward with your life. Sometimes it feels like this phase will never come, which usually means you’re still struggling in an earlier phase.

Knowing your phases of grief can help normalize your break-up experience. It’s also important to know that there are no time limits and no rushing the process. Grieving is like digestion: there is nothing you can do to hurry it along. It takes time and the only thing you can do is try to get through it. But take heart in the fact that this, like everything else, will eventually pass.

Source:-http://www.psychologytoday.com

10 Things men should never ask women

An author has come up with a list of 10 top dating tips to guide men on what they should never say to women.

David DeAngelo, author of "Double Your Dating", says there is nothing worse than making mistakes that will later be regretted and one way to avoid them is to remember the following, Bullz-Eye.com reported.

First of all , a man should never ask a woman if he can kiss her, as she will only say, a man should never "ask" for a kiss.

Asking her for a kiss will only make a man look like a boy, which is what a woman is not interested in, and even if she says "yes", it could mean she is just being polite, while on the inside her attraction meter will read a firm, "No".

Secondly , a man should never ask a woman if he can take her out on a date sometime, as she would like to be with a man who is a leader and in control, not someone who asks her permission to hit on her.

A man should confidently ask a woman out, by simply saying, "We should hang out... what's your number?" or tell her about a specific place he wants to take her to.

Thirdly , a man should never brag about the car he has or the kind of house he lives in, as it would seem like he is trying hard to impress her.

Women would be far more impressed by a man's material possessions if he does not mention them in conversation.

The fourth thing a man should never ask a woman is what she wants to do for the night, as she likes a "man with a plan".

The man needs to have a game plan before he calls her, so as to ensure that she will not be burdened with having to think about what to do.

Fifthly, a man should never ask a woman if she likes him, as this is one phrase that turns off a woman completely.

He should just assume that she likes him, and never ask the question, as it would look like he has no confidence.

The sixth tip is that a man should never ask a woman why she never answered his message, as one, it would show that he cared she did not reply back, and two, it would give her a guilt trip, which is seen as insecurity by women.

The seventh tip is that a man should never ask a woman how men she has slept with, as this shows that he is suffering from insecurity.

The eighth tip is that a man should never hint at a future date with a woman he has just met, as she not only wants but needs a guy who is somewhat of a "challenge", and will lose interest if she senses she has won.

The ninth tip is that a man should never end a phone conversation with a woman with a "next step", as firstly it would kill any spontaneity by being predictable, and secondly he would kill any chances of her calling him.

The tenth tip is that a man should never talk bad about a woman's guy friends especially if he hasn't met them and doesn't know her very well, as this is the fastest way for her to mark him as "insecure".


Source:- http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com

Enable wifi on BSNL router

Follow this to enable auto-connect and wifi on any of your BSNL dsl modem cum routers. Mine is DNA-A211-I.

1. Go to the default getway, most likely 192.168.1.1. If you are unable to get to it, feel free to reset the router to the factory setting by a small button at the back of the router.

2. Login using admin/admin, unless you have changed it. (You should!)

3. Go to "Advanced Setup" -> "WAN". Click on the "edit" button on the entry with values 0/35 for VPI/VCI and PPPoE for Protocol.

4. Select service category "UBR without PCR". Click next.

5. Select "PPP over Ethernet (PPPoE)" and Encapsulation Mode as "LLC/SNAP-BRIDGING". Click next.

6. Type username and password for your BSNL connection, "dataone" as service name and "AUTO" as Authentication Method. Check "Dial on Demand" and set 30 minutes (or whatever) as timeout. Check "Retry PPP password on authentication error" and "Bridge PPPoE Frames Between WAN and Local Ports (Default Enabled)". Click next.

7. Check "Enable WAN service". Click next, save and save/reboot.



Source :-http://amitgud.blogspot.in

Set Notation

Meaning of Signature

Meaning of Signature

• First letter in capital and in bigger size compared to other letters in the signature: This tells that writer has large PPI (Personnel Personality Index), writer is able to form his impression at first meeting itself.
• Break just after first letter in the signature: Means a person has initial communication hitch/gap/fear/inhibition.
• Writer first name only (surname/family name missing) Tells about his/her own mission/vision. These people rely solely on their own strength and avoid friends'/parents advise/help/guidance. Now a days these types can be found in signatures of most of call center/ entertainment, media boys and girls.
• First letter limited to initials, second name/surname with all the details : Such persons are able to create initial impression but are not able to flourish due to over dependence on their parents. They give less priority to their own goals/vision/mission.
• Legible signature : Tells that person is able to exercise full potential of his calibre and has created his own brand in the area of his interest. Such writers are able to market efficiently their personality features at public and enjoy recognition, authority, quality, aspect of their own work. It also shows that person has clear vision/mission of his choice.
• Curved and smooth signature: Tells that person is gentle, charming, flexible, outgoing, sociable e.g. Example : Film actress Shri Devi’s signature.
  
• Signature with angular connections: Implies that the writer is forceful has strong personality, competitive, aggressive and has a strong will. See the signature of actor Aamir Khan.
• Underscoring below signature : Indicates that person has a healthy ego, confidence. If underline starts since beginning of signature then this shows that person is lucky enough since childhood as far as basic necessity like food and cloth and infrastructure are concerned.
• Underline crossing the signature at middle zone of letters: This is the indication of person’s sacrifices, He is not able to justify/adjust to the outer world, self destructive nature, inner fear.
• Many underscoring : This features tells that person doubts his own public worth/importance
• Underlining at upper zone /above the signature: It indicates self protectiveness , spiritual / intellectual drive, leadership traits
• Underline below and above the signature: Writer likes to follow a predetermined line of action, he is resentful.
• First letter written in small case with bigger size : Means that person has high usable skills beneficial for others not for himself. Excellent communication (loud).
• Large capitals: Shows creativity, pride, desire for greatness, extremely large size project inner fantasies and repressed wishes.
• Large bottom loops : Is indication for strong need / desire for sexuality, money and material possession.
• Small case/size capitals : Indicates writer doesn’t want public acceptance, modest, pride and tradition relatively unimportant.
• Ascending signature (i.e. base line going upside) Tells about optimism, ambition, active
• Descending signature : Means writer is pessimistic, depressed, fatigued, not goal oriented.
• Dot follows signature : Means that “the final word has been said and there is no more “ world stops here, doubts own actions
• Dot below underline :One dot tells vigilant nature, two dots mean willing to get directed (good for actors) One can see Amitabh Bachchan’s signature.
•  Middle name first : Tells that writer is giving top most priority to his hobby and secondary actions, basic instinct, and drive. He lives a wandering life and is not able to make faithful friends/ lasting relations.
• Signature placed at the center : Tells that writer is shy, wants to be in the center of things.
•  Signature smaller than script : Means introvert natura submissive, mild, modest, insecure.
• Signature bigger than script : Shows writer is extrovert, secure, contentious, over reactive.
• First name and second name interconnected :Tells writer’s richness in character, sociability, strong parental association.
• Illegible deformed crawled threaded signature :Tells that writer has high IQ but is not able to fulfill his own vision and mission. Such persons are a compromising lot at the cost of self destruction. These traits are common in IAS officers. / secretaries, because their skill is used to fulfill the political motives.
• Encircled signature :Tells writer wants to hide or shelter from society, protective behavior, not able to utilize entrepreneurship.
•  Signature written with greater speed than the script :Implies more confidence than actual, portrays good potential for improvements.
• Signature written with slower speed than the script: Tells that writer has achieved better traits/ controls, he is reserved and careful to control his impulse.
• Vertical strokes of letters bent at the middle towards left side : Shows comparatively more attachment to mother than father.
• Vertical strokes of letter bent at the middle zone towards right side :Tell that writer is more inclined towards his father.
•  Variable slant of letters within the signature : Emotional disturbances, strong in fight inside the mind, unstable, unsychronised thought, variable moods, difficulty in getting things done in a friendly manner.
• Initials starting with strokes : Writer has inherited skills, can’t start things without introduction.
• Signature with long ending stroke : Writer has extra energy, helps two steps extra proactively, helps others out of the way.
  
  Source:-http://www.futurepointindia.com

Insert different headers in word

How to insert Different header or Footer in Word 2007-11

Step 1:-

First mover your cursor to respect page , from where onword you want to have a different footer or header

 

Step 2:-

 Click on next page button to break the page & form new starting cursor location

 

Step 3:-

then click on "link to previous" so that your previous page footer don't change

 

Calculating Luminosity

You have learned that in order to understand stars, astronomers want to know their luminosity. Luminosity
describes how much light incoming from the star each second. Luminosity can be measured in watts (W).
The brightness of this bulb is the same at all points one meter away from the bulb. All those points together form
a sphere with a radius of one meter, surrounding the bulb.